Tuesday, April 30, 2013

My Non-Adventures in Online Dating

The single life is not all it's cracked up to be. Sure, you basically get to do whatever you want whenever you want, but there's more to life than that. Life is meant to share with someone you love, or at least that's what I believe.

I've been single and tired of it for quite some time. At 28 years old, I felt like I was starting to run out of options as far as finding ways to meet guys. High school and college are over, there aren't any single guys at my church, none at work... so what's a girl to do?! For years I thought there was no way I'd ever try online dating, but last year I finally broke down and gave it a shot.

Unfortunately, I didn't have any luck. I first tried Match.com for 3 months. Maybe that just wasn't long enough, or maybe it's just not for me. Basically, any guys who were interested in me were not remotely my type, and of course when I'd find the "perfect guy," he would never respond. So after my subscription ran out, I didn't want to shell out more money for a lost cause. I felt like a lot of the guys on the site were just "players" anyway, and that's not what I'm looking for.

So, I gave Christian Mingle a whirl last fall. This time my subscription was for 6 months. I thought the guys on Match were bad, but Christian Mingle was actually worse, sadly. First of all, I was hesitant because I thought some of the questionable guys might be on there posing as Christians. I'm not sure if that was the case, but there were only about 30 guys in my area, period. Not a lot to choose from, and none that seemed promising. Now, I'll admit that I've been known to me picky, but in recent years I've become more open to certain things. I do still have my standards, though. 

In all honesty, I didn't have a bit of success in the online dating world. But I really do want to find love. I toy with the idea of giving it another go, or maybe I should throw in the towel with that avenue for a while and try something else. But what?! I don't like the idea of hanging out at bars... 1) because I'm not a drinker and 2) because I don't think you always meet the right kind of people there. So what's a girl to do?! 

I've thought about trying a new church where there might be more young people, but it does feel kind of awkward going somewhere new by myself. I have a couple friends who have suggested speed dating, but I don't know how successful that usually is. I'm open to ideas, though. And I'm open to set-ups, as long as they're not your balding, neighbor/plumber, your friend's unemployed son, or your grandson who currently has a girlfriend.

Suggestions welcome!!!

1 comment:

  1. I met my hubby on match.com 14 years ago. We've been married for 12. Not sure how different online dating is now, but maybe give it another shot?